THE MARRIAGE DIARIES VOL. 11

I am really bad at keeping up with these, considering our 1 year is just days away. Oh well, playing catch up today!

Here we are getting so close to celebrating our one year anniversary. Our time hop and Facebook memories are constantly showing us memories from a year ago, and I can't help but look back and tear up. This time last year we were running around getting the last minute details finished up. And I mean last minute details....Matthew had our wedding programs printed off the day before our wedding :) We had decided we didn't want them but then at the last minute decided we did. So with some quick designing on my end and quick thinking on Matthew's end we had our programs printed and ready to be handed out. It's little details like that I don't want to forget about our sweet day, and the days leading up to it.

We are getting settled into our home even more now than ever. The end of this month will mark 6 months in our home. We have furniture in almost every room, and we have gotten quotes on the paint and built-ins that we are eager about. Once the paint is finished we will start hanging stuff on the walls, and I know once we get into all of that it will feel even more like ours. We have established great relationships with both of our neighbors and love our little neighborhood. We have hosted family and friends many times and look forward to many more events in our home. 

We are in the middle of summer and I am loving every second of it! I know Matthew is more than ready for some cooler weather, but I am loving this summer. Last summer was SO fast paced and in all actuality revolved around wedding planning. It's so nice this summer to just come home to each other and watch a movie, do stuff around the house, run errands, or just go for a summer drive. Wedding planning was an extremely exciting time and I enjoyed every second of it, but I love the slower pace of life where we are in now. And savoring every moment, because I know life won't always be at the slow of a pace! 

Sharing life and a last name with this guy is simply the best.

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THE MARRIAGE DIARIES VOL. 11

THE MARRIAGE DIARIES VOL. 3

This is a few days late, but I thought it would be fun to share Vol. 3 today...we've been married 100 days today. For the past 100 days I haven't woken up without him beside me. It's funny how we've fallen into routines and the new normal. I remember our first week back from our honeymoon and waking up each morning beside him before work. It was strange and so different, but I loved it (and still loving it!), and now I can't imagine waking up and Matthew not being there.

100 days of morning talks together while he gets ready for work, one of my favorite moments each day.

I've been describing each month in one or two words, I don't know if I'll do that every month, but I will continue that for this month. So if I had to describe our third month of marriage it would be: Thankful. There have been so many moments where I have just stopped and became so overwhelmed with thankfulness. Thankful for Matthew, thankful for his friendship, thankful for his forgiveness, thankful for his selflessness, thankful for our jobs, thankful for our apartment, thankful for two families becoming one through our marriage, and thankful for this sweet life we are building together.

We've shared meals together, lazy nights watching our favorite shows, driving around looking at houses for "someday" (one of our favorite things to do!), uncontrollable laughter, prayers, tag teaming the dishes, furniture projects, silly moments, and sweet moments. We've also shared disagreements, compromises and long talks. We've failed to communicate, and annoyed each other. We've loved so deeply and failed to love at some moments. Just like month two, we are still adjusting and learning to compromise, and I plan on doing that, Lord willing, for the rest of our lives together. 

I have a lump in my throat as I type this because my husband is falling asleep beside me. We've been married for over three months now and I still can't get over the fact that this is my reality. Thankful, so incredibly thankful. 

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THE MARRIAGE DIARIES VOL. 3

The Marriage Diaries Vol. 2

Two months. Two months we have been married. It's funny because I remember just a little bit ago when we were two months away from our sweet day and time literally seemed to be dragging by, and now these past two months have flown by. I'm usually really excited and ready for fall. Ready for the cooler days and fun activities fall brings, but this year I'm just not ready to see summer go.

If I had to describe our second month it would be: Adjustment and compromise.
Month one was really busy with all the moving and we hadn't really fallen into a routine but this month we've been able to settle in and get a routine going. And that's where the adjusting comes in. Matthew and I both lived alone in our own places before we got married. We had our own way of doing things and our own habits. I lived in my apartment by myself for over a year. I never once questioned anything about throwing up a new piece of decor if I liked it. It was my place so if I liked it I used it. He was the same way, not really on decor, but if he wanted something in a certain place he left it there and that was the objects place. You combine two different people with two different opinions on some things and then you have COMPROMISES!

I talked briefly about this in a post I wrote a little bit ago, What I love about marriage, and how it's all just a learning process. I'm not in anyway complaining about these topics, because I really do see how lucky I am to have someone like Matthew to learn all this with AND together, and what a blessing that is! I remember hearing people say how marriage is hard and for the life of me I couldn't figure out what they meant, but now I can see how it's not always easy. And if this is the "hard" part in our marriage then I am one grateful wife.
Is our marriage perfect? Absolutely not. Arguments still happen and sometimes we still annoy each other. Our marriage will never be perfect and we will always be learning, and I am so thankful for that. Lord willing, we will have a life full of compromises and adjustments. I know there will be new seasons of life to adjust to, but I wouldn't want to adjust to them with anyone else other than my Matthew.

Two months ago we made vows to one another in front of God, our family and friends. We promised to follow each other through all of life's experiences with each other all while following God. I pray that this is always our hearts desire, even when we've been married for 60 years.

There are many choices to make in life, but choosing to marry and love Matthew is the easiest choice I've ever made.

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The Marriage Diaries Vol. 2

"Marriage Isn't For You" & "A Response To: Marriage Isn't For You" + a video

HAPPY FRIDAY!!!! As usual I am excited it's almost the weekend and even better my new schedule allows me to get off early on Friday so I am counting down the hours!   I had another post planned for today but I really wanted to share this instead. I'm sure all of you or most of you have read the post "Marriage isn't for you" being shared all over Facebook and the Internet. It has had over 24 millions views, so if you haven't read it yet go read it. I liked this post and agreed with it for the most part. Now I'm not married obviously and probably won't be for another 2+ years but I do have my opinions on this. Matthew and I talked about this post and we both had different views on it at first. I agreed that when you get married you have to become totally selfless. After many classes and lessons at church and on retreats over relationships and marriage I have learned from people who are older than I am that you must become selfless. Matthew's views on this were, yes you have to become selfless when you get married but you get married to make yourself happy too.  I can agree with that, obviously you aren't going to get married if you are unhappy with the person, or at least you shouldn't.   " You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children."   I would certainly hope that you don't marry someone just to have a family and for children. Overall I think it was a great post with great intentions but I do agree with Matthew on his point about being happy yourself and he agreed on my point about being selfless.   So then I found this... Here is another post that I loved. This man wrote "A Response To: Marriage Isn't For You" I think his response to the article above is not only great but so true.   "Like the author claims, marriage is definitely not about making yourself happy, but it’s not always about making your spouse happy either. True love is focused on God, and that sometimes means making people unhappy in order to draw them closer to God. Marriage is not about making your spouse smile or laugh every day. Marriage is not about being nice, it’s about loving your spouse as God loves them.  Marriage is not only about making your spouse happy, it’s about making them holy."   The last sentence of that small passage from the post really made me think. One thing that I have always promised Matthew is that, I will always love God more than I love him. AND then I saw this video last night and I felt like it definitely tied into this somewhat. I love the part where Jase says "Do it God's way" so many people today are trying to do it their way, I am included and I am learning everyday to do it God's way. I also loved where Missy says "they have a Godly agreement to help each other get to Heaven" Is that not what Jeremy was saying in his response?    

   These are just my opinions (and one of Matthew's) on all 3 of these and I really enjoyed reading/watching so if you have some down time today or this weekend read/watch these! Have a wonderful weekend!!   

P.S. How original is the title of this post? Ya girl couldn't think of anything for it!! So sorry for the long title haha!

P.S.S. Friendsgiving is tonight! WOOP WOOP!!

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"Marriage Isn't For You" & "A Response To: Marriage Isn't For You" + a video