Monday, December 21, 2015


I completely skipped right over Marriage Diaries Vol. 4 last month, so I decided to combine them into one post. So here we are...Month 4 and 5! Y'all, I still can't believe our wedding has already come and gone, let alone almost 6 months of marriage under our belt! Tomorrow marks a year ago that Matthew got down on one knee and asked me to take his last name. So much has happened since that perfect night, and I just love this journey we're on together.

Marriage is so fun. And as always, I am so grateful for this beautiful gift, even through the disagreements, happy times, miscommunication, and compromises- I'm thankful. I didn't think our relationship would change when we got married, we had been together over 5 years so what really could change? I was wrong. So much has changed (all in positive ways) and I am still learning SO much. I must be intentional. I must be intentional even when it's hard. I must respect my husband. I must respect my husband even when we have a disagreement. I must choose communication. I must choose communication even when it's hard. What a joy it is knowing we are working on these things together every single day, and sometimes we don't even realize it.

Lately, especially these past couple of weeks before Christmas, I've felt that I need to be more intentional with my husband. I need to be more intentional with our time together. Less time watching T.V, less time on social media and more time in conversation, more time just doing what we love, more time talking about our future and what all it holds. I just want to soak up every second of our first married Christmas season together.

These past two months we've done a lot, and I feel as if everything is happening so quickly yet so slowly. There were a couple of nights where we just sat there and talked about everything- finances, where we're going to live, plans for the holidays, planning events for 2016 and it hit me one night as Matthew was talking. I completely zoned out of our serious conversation (sorry, babe!) and realized how much I trusted him. When you sit back and think about just how much you trust your spouse it's the best feeling. Knowing that no matter what happens in the future you completely and wholeheartedly trust your husband. It's a huge weight off your chest! I'm not saying that I didn't trust Matthew before, because I completely trusted him pretty much from day one of our friendship, but you get so busy and life happens and don't really think of these things. It's nice to sit back and take it all in.

We've made some pretty big adult decisions in the past few weeks (more on that later!) and I know without a doubt that Matthew has done plenty of research and put in so much prayer, thought, and time into it all. We've prayed together, been disappointed, celebrated, researched stuff together, and have been just beyond excited. And I honest to goodness can't think of anyone else I would rather experience life's ups and downs with. 


  1. Being intentional with your time together is SO important! It's so easy for Caleb and I to each spend a night editing separately, watching TV, etc.! When one of us realizes we pause whatever we're doing and exchange a few hugs and talk about our days! :) I can't believe your about to have your first MARRIED Christmas - its the best, girl!!

  2. This is such a sweet post! So happy that married life is treating you well Miss Shelby! :-)

    xoxo A

  3. Married life is the best even when it's hard! The first year goes by so fast so really enjoy it! I can't believe we're on year two!!

  4. What a sweet post, my Husband and I were together for ~5 years too before we got married and it's amazing how much your relationship does change.


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